How do you manage your life? Is your life finely honed, everything in its place, no worries about…anything? Are you constantly on the move, but have people who help you to manage your responsibilities? Are you lucky enough to respond, “What responsibilities”? Or even, “Life, what’s that”?! A bit of sarcasm on the last two!
My response would be, a bit of each of those. There never seem to be an all or nothing with me, it’s always, this or that; or a little bit of this, or a little bit of that! I have three children and a grandchild. I’ve told you that before right?! Their ages are 20+, 15+, 8+, and the little grandson is 1+. We all live together with their dad (grandpa), which is as it should be. Our eldest daughter having a boyfriend at 17, then consequently, getting pregnant at such a young age, despite everything that we’ve taught her, was a very traumatic time for all of us. Now with her baby on board, we are managing our lives and we love the little tyke so much! I am also happy to see that she is on track to have the future she wants!
There are times when everything gets out of whacked, nothing goes right, and you are holding on for dear life, praying for the roller coaster to stop so that you can get off. You pray that when that ride has ended your knees are not wobbly and you don’t projectile unto anyone standing too close to you!
Then there are the times when everything is just great! All the I’s are dotted and all the T’s are crossed! You are amazed at how well things are going and you don’t want anything to interrupt this time in your life!
I used to think that my children wouldn’t need me as much as they grew older. I thought the younger years; birth to 5 years would be the neediest part of their lives. These are the years when they learn from you and they will need you for every little thing. I knew the years 6 to 17 would not be a walk in the park, but surely it would get better?! Now, as my children get older, I’ve come to realized, they need me even more the older they get and they do need me for every little thing!
Sometimes it does get difficult, being wife, mother, (employee). I do not regret being in any of those roles (nor my other roles, friend, sister, aunt, etc.). I love my family, and I do relish every moment that I spend teaching my children what I have learned from my parents. I even relish the times I spend shouting at them! Yes, I’m ashamed to say that sometimes there is yelling when they get stubborn and they don’t listen to my advice (my 8 year old) or insist on having things their way (again my 8 year old). However, I’m happy to report that after I calm down, I usually sit and have a conversation with her, explaining why mommy got mad and why she has to do as I say, and we usually kiss and make up! I’m happy to report that her older siblings are usually more open to my suggestions and are less taxing on my nerves! (Most of the times!)
These days with all that is going on in the world around us, it does get difficult to make things work in our own lives. It is not an easy thing to do, finding the cohesiveness that keeps it all from unraveling, although, sometimes I wonder when the other shoe will drop! But I keep trying to make it better for each of us, always trying to and hoping to find those moments they will look back on and smile, much as I do now when I share memories of my childhood with them.
My response would be, a bit of each of those. There never seem to be an all or nothing with me, it’s always, this or that; or a little bit of this, or a little bit of that! I have three children and a grandchild. I’ve told you that before right?! Their ages are 20+, 15+, 8+, and the little grandson is 1+. We all live together with their dad (grandpa), which is as it should be. Our eldest daughter having a boyfriend at 17, then consequently, getting pregnant at such a young age, despite everything that we’ve taught her, was a very traumatic time for all of us. Now with her baby on board, we are managing our lives and we love the little tyke so much! I am also happy to see that she is on track to have the future she wants!
There are times when everything gets out of whacked, nothing goes right, and you are holding on for dear life, praying for the roller coaster to stop so that you can get off. You pray that when that ride has ended your knees are not wobbly and you don’t projectile unto anyone standing too close to you!
Then there are the times when everything is just great! All the I’s are dotted and all the T’s are crossed! You are amazed at how well things are going and you don’t want anything to interrupt this time in your life!
I used to think that my children wouldn’t need me as much as they grew older. I thought the younger years; birth to 5 years would be the neediest part of their lives. These are the years when they learn from you and they will need you for every little thing. I knew the years 6 to 17 would not be a walk in the park, but surely it would get better?! Now, as my children get older, I’ve come to realized, they need me even more the older they get and they do need me for every little thing!
Sometimes it does get difficult, being wife, mother, (employee). I do not regret being in any of those roles (nor my other roles, friend, sister, aunt, etc.). I love my family, and I do relish every moment that I spend teaching my children what I have learned from my parents. I even relish the times I spend shouting at them! Yes, I’m ashamed to say that sometimes there is yelling when they get stubborn and they don’t listen to my advice (my 8 year old) or insist on having things their way (again my 8 year old). However, I’m happy to report that after I calm down, I usually sit and have a conversation with her, explaining why mommy got mad and why she has to do as I say, and we usually kiss and make up! I’m happy to report that her older siblings are usually more open to my suggestions and are less taxing on my nerves! (Most of the times!)
These days with all that is going on in the world around us, it does get difficult to make things work in our own lives. It is not an easy thing to do, finding the cohesiveness that keeps it all from unraveling, although, sometimes I wonder when the other shoe will drop! But I keep trying to make it better for each of us, always trying to and hoping to find those moments they will look back on and smile, much as I do now when I share memories of my childhood with them.
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